Just another angry queer anarchist trans woman getting by in Portland. She/her pronouns, white, able-bodied, frequently depressed. Afflicted with a deep love of iconoclasts, books, bourbon, and baby goats. This blog is rather NSFW but I try to tag as needed. Need to know more? send an ask.

Anonymous asked: How do you normally cope with dysphoria? I need new coping mechanisms so I was wondering what you do to help yourself through the worst of it :(


Here are the things that I do, what works for you may vary.

  • Keep as busy as you’re able to. If you can, exhaust yourself such that you fall asleep easily.
  • Try to get in touch with yourself enough that you know when you need to avoid mirrors. If you absolutely need to use one, you can try to make it a slightly better experience in a couple of ways. (1) You can psych yourself up for it a tiny bit by mentally saying nice things about your appearance before looking, and (2) you can adorn the mirror itself with shit that makes you feel better (sticky notes of self-affirmation, or charms and rose quartz if you’re into magic shit). I know this stuff sounds silly, but it helps me.
  • Figure out what makes you feel okay wrt clothes and do it as much as you can.
  • Be aware of when you’re self-harming (and that it can take a lot of forms - sex has historically been a major one for me), but cut yourself a ton of slack because it’s not your fault. Do what you need to keep yourself safe, but keep in mind that there’s nothing wrong with so-called “bad coping mechanisms” as long as they help and you don’t hurt anybody.
  • Be careful about what kinds of media you consume - I don’t watch TV or very many movies because they pretty categorically make me feel fucked up.
  • Find things about your appearance that you like. Focus on them when you need to.
  • Pray a lot if that’s your thing.

Hang in there. Frankly, it doesn’t get better. It’s impossible to be a trans woman under patriarchy without internalizing a lot of the hatred of trans women’s bodies that permeates our entire society. That said, there IS stuff you can do that makes it more manageable, you WILL acclimate over time, and it CAN be survived.


Hey friends, I just got a text from a friend asking for advice for her friend, a gay trans woman who was told today at her workplace that she is no longer permitted to use the women’s restroom and must either use the mens room or set up “scheduled quarantined bathroom breaks.” She’s located in the state of Oregon, for reference if anyone has legal advice. She’s planning on taking legal action but my friend was looking for suggestions for her in the meantime. Does anyone have any advice I can pass along?

This is complete and utter bullshit, your friend’s employers are blatantly breaking Oregon’s anti discrimination laws, specifically Or. Rev. Stat. § 659A.403, which prevents discrimination on the basis of gender identity to public accommodations, this includes access to bathrooms that match her gender.  She absolutely should contact the state’s civil rights commission and file a complaint, a link on how to go about doing that can be found here. Additionally, I would recommend getting in touch with Basic Rights Oregon and filing a complaint through them. They’ve been incredibly effective at addressing discrimination against trans women in the state and the people I know who work with them are fiercely dedicated. I hope your friend gets the help she needs, behaviors like this are from anyone are intolerable and it cuts so much deeper when it’s from an employer. Please offer her as much support and understanding as you are capable of. Things like this take a severe mental toll on the person being discriminated against.




They said you might come.

#This scene makes me so sad#because above all else#above UNIT and Torchwood#and even the Doctor#SHE was a doctor#Martha Jones helped people - her passion was to heal#and save lives#and now she might be the only one who can save the universe#but at the cost of the entire planet#she’ll kill them all#and it’s the last thing that she wants to do#but it’s the only option now#so when this woman pulls the gun on her and threatens to kill her#Martha sadly nods her head and tells her to do it#because then she wouldn’t have to make this choice#and it kills me

oh my god martha nearly did to the earth what the doctor did to gallifrey

oh my god

This is the exact reason why I maintain my position that Martha was not, under any circumstances, the companion.

She was the doctor.

Now I know that he’s always the same man at the core after regenerations  so on and so forth, but when it really boils down, the doctor isn’t a timelord, the doctor is an idea. At least in the RTD era, every companion at one point or another, has had to make the choice to become the doctor.

Rose Became the Doctor when she accepted her fate as the bad wolf.

Mickey became the doctor when he stayed in the parallel universe.

Donna became the doctor during the meta-crisis.

Jack became the doctor when he ‘died’  for the first time trying to save everyone before Rose destroyed the Daleks.

But Martha? Martha was different, Martha was special. Martha never chose to become the doctor, because that was who she always was in her heart; and substantially she was the only companion of the RTD era who didn’t need to be saved by either the timelord doctor or TARDIS intervention (in the case of Jack, seeing as it was the badwolf, who brought him back).



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all ive seen from the queer agenda so far is young queer people being afraid around their family and older queer people vowing to be their new family in very serious and heartfelt ways. like honestly im everyones mom at this point and at least five other people are my moms and one is my sibling.

i hope the straights are scared. if we keep this up pretty soon itll be normal to have a family made entirely of friends who are all afraid and all look out for eachother and are brave.

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